If a young man is a virgin by a certain age, he’s a loser and needs to get laid. If a young girl who’s the same age is a virgin, she’s angelic and innocent.
If a grown man is having sex with many women, he get’s high-fives from his buddies for his conquests and virility. If a woman were to behave the same way she gets called a slut by both men and women alike.
The hypocrisy of slut shaming women for their real or presumed sexual activity and expression is an insult to us all. Slut shaming attacks and humiliates the way women dress, flirt or how many people they choose to date or be sexually intimate with. Slut Shaming is dangerous to our mental health and well-being as it induces shame, fear and anger into its target---women.
Ever consider wearing a merkin?
The American Apparel advertising campaign created quite the uproar with the use of these pubic hair wigs on their nude mannequins. The reality is, they have been around a very long time. During the 15th century having no hair was a sign you had been treated for syphilis or had pubic lice, hence the popularity of the merkin if you wanted to avoid scorn or a life unwanted celibacy.
There was a time I remember thinking I liked sex too much. I began to wonder if I was a sex addict. Or, if being addicted to sex was even possible.
Given my preference for long-term monogamous relationships, it took a few break-ups to realize I just needed to be with someone who shared a similar libido to me. In the process I learned that there are a lot of falsehoods that pertain to the myth of sex addiction, falsehoods I was more than happy to share with my clients as they journeyed their way to self-empowered lives.
Sex addiction is a popular and lucrative business.
We all know that being physically fit has numerous health benefits---especially in the bedroom.
Ever notice your partner wanting to get it on after he or she exercises? That's because exercise stimulates the release of sex hormones! After we’re done working out our mood is elevated, the heart rate and blood pressure are lower, stress is down and the mood is elevated making us primed and ready for some serious love making!
Personally I prefer a good shower before all of that goes down, but don't be surprised if your lover disagrees! Those sexual pheromones, that can drive our guy or gal wild, get some serious exposure when we sweat.
What if a person wrote, “Whites only”, “No Asians” or “No Blacks” on their dating profile? I had a Mulatto friend who told me they were asked out on a date after being told he looked white enough.
Would that be considered sexually racist?
There are several dating sites like wherewhitepeoplemeet.com, asiansingles.com, or blackpeoplemeet.com for those that prefer a specific ethnicity. But if we are on a site that welcomes and encourages all ethnicities at what point are statements like, “No chinks” no longer a preference but are in fact racist.