Online dating has a serious bias: our age. In reality (or the denial thereof), the entire world has a problem with aging. Which is ironic given the alternative to aging isn't so great.
The majority of us are using dating apps supposedly searching for the love of our lives or soul mates. Yet, with our instantaneous swipe right or left dating culture, most of us make a judgment about a potential date based solely on age and a photograph. . You’d think we would take a little more time and care on the search for love instead of making snap judgments based on a number.
The wrath of the unappreciated mother can be quite intense. That's why holidays like Mother’s Day should be a day of gratitude for all involved. Yeah, even if our parent wasn’t perfect, cut the lady a little slack, parenting courses are a relatively new phenomenon.
It's also important that our mom's remember...our partner's aren't psychic or perfect.
I finally got someone I was seriously dating to join me in a Tantra workshop. The mere suggestion lit up my boyfriend's eyes with excitement. Images of naked people (more specifically us) in erotic, sometimes hard to perform positions flashed through his head. The primal lure of sensual pleasure and the most amazing orgasms ever fed his lust-filled imagination.
If I told him the reality of the workshop, I'd never get him there. So, I lied.
I felt bad when we arrived to the tantra class and watched him become utterly confused—deflated. It was a bit more therapeutic than he realized. There was no perfectly defined naked Playboy or Playgirl model to greet us with a fruit plate, a cocktail or sex enhancing drugs. The room is filled with regular people—old and young, with various body types and sexual preferences, wearing comfortable, loose clothing.
Friends with benefits (FWB's) can be a sticky situation...and not necessarily in a sexy way. It seems ideal. We get all the pleasures of sex and snuggling without any of the nagging, laundry and airport pick ups.
FWB's always starts out with good intentions. The benefits of convenient sex with no commitments between two people who already have a pre-existing emotional bond can be very alluring. It's an emotionally safe situation, with a lower risk of contracting STI's (assuming our friend doesn't lie to us or has not been recently tested). The transaction between two people who have very busy lives, have given up on relationships in the traditional sense or have grown impatient (and too horny) while trying to find their soul mate could be the right situation for us.